Last Updated on December 1, 2023

There are many ways to make sure you pick the right friends, and I wish I had known this sooner instead of being friends with anyone who came my way. Your friends have a lot of influence on how your life will turn out.

1. Make sure you like them
   There are people you are friends with but you don’t like. It is a big waste of time for you and them. Life is short, so make sure you enjoy spending time together. It is as simple as that.
2. Make sure you have similar views
   Political and religious beliefs are very important to most people. You might get Into arguments and disagreements if you have different beliefs. When you have similar views, it is more fun.
3. They support your endeavors
   Support in your life is essential. You don’t want someone discouraging you right when you are about to try something new. You want someone who will support and cheer you on.
4. They aren’t selfish
   Friends who only care about themselves are no fun. Make sure they also consider other people when making their decisions because they might not be there for you when you need them the most.
5. They don’t judge you for being you
   You should feel comfortable around your friends and be who you are. They must like your personality’s good and bad aspects if your friendship will work.
6. They tell you the truth
   A friend that sugarcoats everyone is no friend at all. When picking friends, make sure they tell you the truth, even if it’s uncomfortable. You don’t want them lying; it will hurt you later.
7. They don’t take advantage of you
   If you are constantly bailing them out of trouble and paying for their meals, but they don’t reciprocate, then they aren’t friends. Friendship is a two-way street sea. It can go one way for a long time, but eventually, it should balance out.
8. They don’t sabotage you
   Sometimes, some ill-hearted friends don’t mean well for you. And they will sabotage and destroy your life out of envy and jealousy. They will offer lousy advice and guidance. Be careful who you pick and get to know them

Another good way to ensure you have the right friend is to see how you feel after they leave. Do you feel happy, or do you feel drained of energy? If you feel drained, you shouldn’t spend time with them anymore.

Friendships could last a month or a lifetime. People change and grow apart all the time, and that is okay. As long as you enjoy the time together, a friendship shouldn’t be a prison sentence. If you start growing apart, talk to your friend about it and kindly move on.