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What to do if you feel like a loser at 40

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Man staring on a road with a plan In his hand.

So you are forty years old with a list of boring, entry-level jobs. No girlfriend and no kids, no formal education, and you feel like life passed you by. You will never be a success story. Here is the truth: you can still turn your life around. Here are some ideas.

1. Stop doing what you are doing
If you are dwelling on the past or what could have or should have happened, STOP. That is not going to change anything. In fact, it will make it worse, because you are not making any progress forward.

2. Accept where you are
Take full responsibility for where you are in life. Not because of your friends or your parents. Not because of your environment, but because of the choices you made and the route you chose to take.

3. Make a plan
Decide what you are going to do from this point forward. If it’s going to be going back to get a degree or starting that business, make a detailed, step-by-step plan of what you are going to do every minute of every day for the next five years.

4. Go for it
Give it everything you’ve got. It’s live or die—give it every single piece of energy you have. Think that every day for the next five years is going to be hard and almost impossible if you don’t give it every single piece of willpower to change.

5. Once you achieve your goals
Once you achieve your goals in five years, be grateful and appreciative, because you could lose it fairly easily by falling back into your bad habits and thinking patterns.

Don’t waste time

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Time is not something you can get back once it’s gone. Many people waste it, and when they get older, they regret how much of it they lost.

One way to avoid wasting time is to pause before beginning any endeavor and ask yourself: “How will I feel about this in 20 years?” That’s a question you should constantly keep in mind.

By doing this, you’ll live a more successful and meaningful life, and when you look back twenty years from now, you’ll feel proud rather than regretful.

Another important question to ask is: “Is this goal truly worth pursuing, or am I doing it for the wrong reasons—like trying to impress my family, friends, or even strangers?” Always choose to do things for yourself, not for anyone else.

Let me know in the comments: What do you regret wasting time on?

How people view time is how people live their life

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For the past 15 years, I spent much of my life trapped in the past. I replayed moments where people took advantage of me—business partners who used me, friends who were jealous, and those I trusted who gave me poor advice. It felt like every step I took, especially when it came to money or relationships, was guided by someone else’s hidden motives rather than my own best interest. I wasted so much energy dwelling on their actions, their betrayal, and their influence over my decisions.

Somewhere along the way, all that bitterness became a lens through which I viewed life. I used to see time as something beautiful—something to enjoy. Life was about fun, excitement, and experiences. But after being diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, my perception began to change drastically. Life no longer felt light or playful. Time became heavy. It started to feel like pain. A constant weight. It wasn’t just the mental illness—it was everything I had gone through that seemed to confirm my suffering.

Schizoaffective disorder brought challenges I never expected. It blurred the lines between what was real and what was distorted by emotion or perception. I found myself questioning everything—my thoughts, my choices, even my memories. Add to that the feeling of being wronged by people I once trusted, and I spiraled into a space where time itself felt like punishment. I was no longer living—I was just surviving.

But today, something clicked. I realized that the way we view time is the way we view life. If I think of time as pain, then every day is going to hurt. If I see time as a burden, then life becomes one long burden. But what if I flip that idea? What if I start seeing time not as pain, not as something to get through, but as an opportunity? A space where I can grow, learn, and even have fun?

From this day forward, I’m choosing to see time as a combination of discipline and joy. I’m going to use it to build structure in my life—structure that helps me heal, become stronger, and stay focused. At the same time, I’m not going to forget that life is meant to be enjoyed. I don’t have to choose between discipline and happiness—they can coexist. In fact, when balanced, they bring out the best in each other.

No longer will I let the past define me. The people who misled me, used me, or tried to break me—they don’t own my time anymore. I do. I am the one who gets to decide how I spend each day. And I choose to spend it becoming better, becoming more whole, and finding new ways to enjoy life again, even with the challenges I face.

This realization is my turning point. It won’t be easy—some days will still be hard. But the difference now is that I finally understand that time isn’t my enemy. Time is my teacher. And I’m ready to learn, grow, and live again.

Time waits for no one

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Today, I realized I had been putting things off into the future unknowingly. It’s almost automatic in my brain. I remember doing it little by little here and there, and then it became an automatic habit horrifying. 

Who knew that putting my science project homework until tomorrow would lead to this horrible experience that I realized I had been putting off getting into shape and a regular workout routine for eight years?

Time waits for no one.

A lot of time has passed since I set the goal to get into shape. We went through the pandemic where I was laid off and had all the time in the world. To two years after it.

Today, I aim to put everything on track, even writing and sharing my experiences on this blog. Who knows what a little thing might lead to?

“The Washington Monument faced notorious delays. Construction began in 1848 but was halted in 1854 due to political squabbling and lack of funds, leaving the monument only partially completed for several years. It wasn’t until 1879, thanks to renewed efforts, that construction resumed, and the monument was finally completed in 1884, Thirty-six years later.” – Chatgpt

Now I fully understand how people do a job they have hated for thirty-plus years and stay in a bad relationship for just as long. So, this morning, I’m heading straight to the gym. I suggest you look at your life and see what you have been putting off for longer than you would like to admit to.

Don’t waste time thinking you have time

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I wasted time when I was younger. After high school, around 2005, I decided to make a massive website because I saw people making millions and knew I could be one of them. However, I kept putting it off into the future.

I kept saying tomorrow, next month, or next year. However, because I was young and naive, I did not realize that the competition was improving because people learn and build better websites. Before I knew it, every good idea was taken, and it was challenging and costly to make a good original website that people enjoyed.

Around the same time, another opportunity I kept putting off was martial arts. I wanted to get serious about it, but I kept telling myself in the future, I would see my instructor around town, and he would invite me to the dojo, and I’d be there next week.

Before I knew it was too late to do anything significant in professional fighting. Years went by, and I never made it to the dojo. Instead, I was partying and drinking with my friends, which is now something I regret.

You never realize how much time you have. To do something before uncontrollable circumstances get in the way and don’t allow you to do what you want. You might get sick, forget, or the market might shift.

Please don’t be lazy and put it off for another second. If you can do it right now, then do it right now. Life is short, and the chances might disappear and get lost or given to someone else more ambitious.

You think you have a lot of time, but you don’t. Life goes by quickly, and the older you get, the harder it is to break and form new habits. You have less energy, and every change becomes more challenging as you age.

The wisest choice you can make is to try to do something when you are young. The bigger the goal, the sooner you should start. If you see a good business opportunity, take it because markets shift fast, and it might be too late. You have even less time for athletic competitions.

I’m not saying that you should pursue your goals and nothing else because they most likely will lead to burnout, and you won’t even care about your goals. You can do leisure activities, but set a time limit and control it carefully.

I found other options and goals to pursue, like this blog. However, if someone told me not to waste time because we didn’t have a lot of it when I was young, my life would have been totally different. So take this advice very clearly: do not waste time because you don’t have a lot of it

Genius way to manage our time wisely

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Today I was driving my car and conversing with my friend over the phone. Then suddenly, I got an insight into the conversation about nothing insightful or important. Then for some reason, I instantly ended the call. I spent the rest of the drive analyzing how much time I wasted during the past thirty-six years, from watching repetitive plots in action movies to oversleeping. If you think about it, the whole world revolves around time. We sell our time for money and exchange it for goods that supposedly save us time.


However, I never analyzed how well I plan my time on Earth. Looking back, I wouldn’t have wasted it constantly playing video games as a kid and doing a job I hated for minimum wage as an adult. Time is the most precious thing we have on Earth. From now on, every second of my life will be correctly spent and goal aligned. Time is nothing we can buy, and once it’s gone, it is gone forever.


A better way of planning how we spend our time is constantly asking ourselves a few times a day, is this time well spent, and does it align with our life goals and purpose? Is this very second destructive or productive? Will I look back at this time in my life as time well used or wasted years? As the old saying goes, “Plan.” Consider this your friendly time reminder from father time.