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Why drinking when you are young is not cool

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The introduction 

I started drinking when I was about sixteen. The local grocery store would sell me and my friends 40 ouncers underage. My friends would hang out and drink our parents didn’t notice or care. It started as a once-in-a-while event to a once-a-week affair, then progressed into every-weekend drinking by age 25.

The Happening

We would go to parties and sometimes drive drunk, not thinking about whether we could get a DUI. Or even worse, get into an accident and possibly die. I admit they were good times; however, I wish we had done it without the alcohol. 

Sometimes I think I got into drinking simply because I wanted to get beautiful women, and I thought it made me cool. Or it could be something more profound, like my father being a professional alcoholic. 

The realization

Drinking is not cool, and I wish I had spent my time doing something more productive. I wish I dared to talk to that girl without alcohol and dance without being drunk. Despite all the things I wish I didn’t do while intoxicated.

Alcohol has a horrible effect on your mental development, according to research. All the risks that were taken, the impaired judgment, all the wrong decisions, and wasted nights of thinking I was fulfilled, but I was just drunk and depressed. If only I could go back and change my drinking habits.

Youngins 

When you are young, you think you have all the time in the world. But in reality, time flies by faster than you can blink. With alcohol, you think you are not on top of the world, but the world is on top of you. Don’t waste your time drinking, and set yourself up for success. 

Instead of going to a party, read tons of books and get into a good college so life could be more straightforward, realistic, and enjoyable.

Alcohol puts your mind in a trance and messes up your judgment over time. It makes you stupider and unlikely to succeed. It is much better to wake up and remember what you did last night than to wake up with a hangover.

Do not judge and you will not be judged

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“Only god can judge me.” I wrote that on my backpack in high school. It was a lyric to a song by a rapper named Tupac. Little did I know how much judging we do when we are adults and how it affects our lives?

We all have had a friend who constantly asks and wants to know everything you are doing so they can compare and contrast.
Some people compare each other daily. From the clothes we wear to the cars we drive. It is a horrible way to live. There is always going to be somebody better and always going to be somebody worse off than you are.
It robs us of happiness. When you compare, you judge. When you judge, you look at things you have and don’t have. The best way to look at someone is to help when you can and be happy for them when they are better off.

It is true that when you judge others, people that judge are judged
That is the kind of atmosphere they create. The best ways to get over being so judgmental. First, try to understand the person. They may have had different opportunities or, for one reason, didn’t take as many risks as you did because of their upbringing.

When you change your ways, you become a happier person. People will want to spend more time around you. Your mind will shift. I realized my life wasn’t so impressive when I stopped judging people. I would have been better off comparing myself to the best version of myself than the person next to me.

So the next time you want to judge someone, and think you are better, ask yourself why? Then picture yourself in their shoes. The judgment of others has to do with being angry at ourselves because we could have done better. As martial arts taught me, our biggest opponent is the best version of ourselves.