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Why I’m thinking about living as a hermit

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My life has been destroyed by other people. Yes, I’ll admit I have a habit of bragging, maybe too much. But I thought the people close to me would be happy for my successes. I was wrong.
People would rather see you fail than see you succeed. Why? Because of equilibrium. People will try to keep up with you and try to copy you as much as they can. However, because I’m a bright guy, they realize they can’t. That’s when they try to destroy what you have so you don’t get ahead of them.
It’s not on purpose, but it’s what people do unknowingly. I only had two people in my life that truly wanted me to succeed, and that’s because they were happy where they were.
For that reason, I am thinking about buying a house in the middle of nowhere and focusing on the arts and reading and writing.
My father taught me to always help and assist people to grow. Since a young age, I would put other people ahead of me. Well, that philosophy attracted a lot of people who didn’t appreciate my help, expected it, and gave nothing back.
I think it would be nice not to talk to anyone and live my life in solitude. Sure, I won’t have anyone to help me grow, but I will also not have anyone sabotage what I am doing. I can meditate and live my life in peace.

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Be careful about sharing your intentions with people

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I wanted to start a blog like this in 2008, when I was about 22 years old. I remember telling my martial arts teacher about it, and he asked why. I told him I wanted to share the lessons I learned. Instead of telling me, “That’s a good idea, go ahead,” he said, “Help me set up a blog. I’ve been wanting to start one for a while.”

Being young and inexperienced, and not knowing what I had, I agreed. I went on and set up the blog for him, which he only wrote in once. I figured I didn’t have much to write about and kind of put the idea aside.

Until 15 years later.

Looking back at it, he took advantage of me or he really wanted to set up a blog I’ll never know for sure ,  I was too naive to know.

This is why you never tell people why you are doing the things you are doing. You can tell them what you are doing, but never why. Because if you tell them why, you set yourself up for manipulation, jealousy, discouragement, or worse, in my case.

The best thing to do is tell people when you succeed, but even then, don’t tell them why. You ever heard that if you tell people your dreams, they never come true? This is why.

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Why you should accept all the bad things people did to you

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I spent a lot of time reminiscing about all the bad things that people — even loved ones — did to me. From my so-called friends giving me bad advice just so they could feel better than me, to strangers taking advantage of me — and me letting it happen.

What you should do is close your eyes and imagine yourself on a beautiful mountaintop or at a beach with perfect weather. Then remember all those things you wish hadn’t happened to you — from the betrayals to the lies to the backstabbings.

Finally, accept them — and hug yourself; you will get your ultimate power back. You might even see why it happened — like I did. All the hurt and pain will finally make sense. From then on, move forward and tell yourself you won’t think about those things anymore.

Now you can move forward with new acceptance and understanding.