Last Updated on August 9, 2023

I grew up with my anger not being seen or acknowledged by my parents. I had trouble with it for most of my life. I did not know what to do with anger or even notice that the feeling had existed for a long time.

Unknowingly, it made me a pushover, and I did not know how to get mad at someone when they crossed my boundaries. I noticed when I started going to the gym and punching a punching bad. That anger could be helpful, allowing me to hit the bag harder and faster. After a while, I noticed I was angry at myself for not being angry in certain situations.

After speaking with a friend, I discovered it could be destructive in a jeopardizing way. I realized It could be a dangerous and powerful weapon if misused. However, we need anger as a survival mechanism. So I am here to tell you that anger can be constructive if used correctly.

Today I am angry at myself for not getting mad at my teachers when they failed to teach the class. I am mad at my parents for not letting me learn what anger was. I am angry at the president for not making all the correct choices. Today I am angry, and it is okay.

The point is not to tune out or acknowledge anger. The point is to use anger correctly and productively. I am angry, so I wrote this article about anger and let others be angry when they read it. I used anger to drive me to write this article about anger.

However, anger can be destructive when it is excessive, uncontrolled, and without limits. When you are angry, you must have limits and boundaries in your actions. Otherwise, you will get yourself into a lot of trouble.

When you are angry, the best thing to do is sit with the anger, meaning acknowledge you are angry and sit with the feeling of anger to its full potential. But do not let it drive your actions or explode with it. Wait until you calm down and then decide on a course of action.