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What to do if you feel like a loser at 40

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Man staring on a road with a plan In his hand.

So you are forty years old with a list of boring, entry-level jobs. No girlfriend and no kids, no formal education, and you feel like life passed you by. You will never be a success story. Here is the truth: you can still turn your life around. Here are some ideas.

1. Stop doing what you are doing
If you are dwelling on the past or what could have or should have happened, STOP. That is not going to change anything. In fact, it will make it worse, because you are not making any progress forward.

2. Accept where you are
Take full responsibility for where you are in life. Not because of your friends or your parents. Not because of your environment, but because of the choices you made and the route you chose to take.

3. Make a plan
Decide what you are going to do from this point forward. If it’s going to be going back to get a degree or starting that business, make a detailed, step-by-step plan of what you are going to do every minute of every day for the next five years.

4. Go for it
Give it everything you’ve got. It’s live or die—give it every single piece of energy you have. Think that every day for the next five years is going to be hard and almost impossible if you don’t give it every single piece of willpower to change.

5. Once you achieve your goals
Once you achieve your goals in five years, be grateful and appreciative, because you could lose it fairly easily by falling back into your bad habits and thinking patterns.

Don’t be afraid to ask for advice

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One thing I did good when I was young was seek out advice. Advice and being pointed in the right direction can tremendously help your life. It could make the difference between a good life and a life full of misery.

Good advice
Good advice can come from anywhere. It could be an article you read online from your bus driver, teacher, or mom. However, you must learn to check to see if the advice makes sense to you inside.

You can learn from other people’s mistakes and avoid the same pitfalls. Or learn from their realizations, insights, and experience, which will make the trip easier.

Bad advice
Like good advice can help you, bad advice can hurt you. I once listened to a friend. About money, and it screwed me up for a long time. Please read about it here. Some people want to help you, and others want to hurt you; however, they love sharing advice because it makes them feel important.

Check the source
For instance, people sometimes like to hear themselves talk. They will say anything, even if it makes no sense, and always think about the person’s reputation and also where they are in life.

Friends provide the best support, not the best advice.

Friends and family can even get jealous and try to sabotage your plan when you are seeking advice. Sometimes your relationships might split, and your friends or family may disagree with your actions. If it makes sense and feels right, then pursue them.

Conclusion
In conclusion, with the right help, you can make extraordinary progress in life, so don’t be afraid to seek wisdom or advice. But you have to get good at picking which advice to take and which not to take.
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The best way is to consider the long-term and the short-term benefits and disadvantages. Also, get as many sources as possible. Buy a book on Amazon on the subject. Read reviews, and post about the issue on a discussion forum. And as the adage goes, a 10,000-mile journey begins with a single step.

Why drinking when you are young is not cool

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The introduction 

I started drinking when I was about sixteen. The local grocery store would sell me and my friends 40 ouncers underage. My friends would hang out and drink our parents didn’t notice or care. It started as a once-in-a-while event to a once-a-week affair, then progressed into every-weekend drinking by age 25.

The Happening

We would go to parties and sometimes drive drunk, not thinking about whether we could get a DUI. Or even worse, get into an accident and possibly die. I admit they were good times; however, I wish we had done it without the alcohol. 

Sometimes I think I got into drinking simply because I wanted to get beautiful women, and I thought it made me cool. Or it could be something more profound, like my father being a professional alcoholic. 

The realization

Drinking is not cool, and I wish I had spent my time doing something more productive. I wish I dared to talk to that girl without alcohol and dance without being drunk. Despite all the things I wish I didn’t do while intoxicated.

Alcohol has a horrible effect on your mental development, according to research. All the risks that were taken, the impaired judgment, all the wrong decisions, and wasted nights of thinking I was fulfilled, but I was just drunk and depressed. If only I could go back and change my drinking habits.

Youngins 

When you are young, you think you have all the time in the world. But in reality, time flies by faster than you can blink. With alcohol, you think you are not on top of the world, but the world is on top of you. Don’t waste your time drinking, and set yourself up for success. 

Instead of going to a party, read tons of books and get into a good college so life could be more straightforward, realistic, and enjoyable.

Alcohol puts your mind in a trance and messes up your judgment over time. It makes you stupider and unlikely to succeed. It is much better to wake up and remember what you did last night than to wake up with a hangover.

What happened when I increased my earnings to $15,000 a month

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The beginning 

It was 2014, and I just turned 27. I worked for an insurance company making about $45,000 as a temporary worker. In my spare time, I would work on website ideas and try to get them programmed by programmers in India.

The company

 Then I came across a database of phone numbers online and decided to make a phone book website. It took two months to create. After three months, I got many website visitors a day, and it grew fast.

I was amazed

The website made money even when I wasn’t there, and lots of it. It required very little maintenance except for the occasional person asking me to remove their information. I thought it set me up financially for life.

Silly decisions begun

I quit my regular job without two weeks’ notice. I finally moved out of my parent’s house and got an apartment as big as my parent’s house. I was a successful entrepreneur, after all.

 I had an incredible time buying things I didn’t need from Amazon. I was taking trips all over the country. I even stayed in new york city at a $ 700-a-night hotel in the famous times square. I was surprised when nobody spoke English at the hotel bar.

The crash

My website crashed and got hacked. It was unexpected, event none of my previous websites got hacked. I did know what to do. IT WAS TOO LATE when I finally found a way to fix it. Google algorithms have pinged me. I was losing website traffic quickly and the earnings even quicker. Although I tried for months, I could not recover the website.

Some things I learned from it.

  1. Refrain from expecting the money to keep coming in. I wish I had saved and invested some of the money that I was making.
  2. Everyone was surprised, so every idea that I had for improving the website was a good one for family and friends.
  3. Before you quit your job to pursue a venture, ensure it has an immaculate success rate and has been operational for at least two years.
  4. Technology changes, and it changes fast. You are a winner one day and a loser the next.

The conclusion

It was a good experience. I learned a lot, and the money allowed me to do many different things; however, I wish to be more careful with my decisions and created a financial cushion before I quit my job without possibly returning.