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What No One Warns You About Sharing Knowledge for Free

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When I was in my 20s, I was very naive. Which is very common at that age, but I was super naive. I spent a lot of my time in front of the computer. I came across web design and got really good at coding.


Around that time, people were just discovering the internet. There were no big companies, and information was shared freely and openly without cost.


What happened is I grew up with the belief that knowledge is free. Basically, I thought that if you know something, you can tell anyone, and they will help you when they know something.
It hurt me a lot because people realized I was willing to tell them anything. I came to discover very good ways of making money, which my supposed friends would take and use to make money.


I kept telling myself I was young and that I still had time to make a lot of money. Then, around my 30s, I realized that I made a mistake, and when I asked the same friends for help, they were nowhere to be found.


It made me feel used and taken advantage of. My old boss said it best when he said I might know a lot about computers, but I don’t know a lot about people. He was right.


Let me know in the comments about the mistakes you made when you were young.

Be careful about sharing your intentions with people

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I wanted to start a blog like this in 2008, when I was about 22 years old. I remember telling my martial arts teacher about it, and he asked why. I told him I wanted to share the lessons I learned. Instead of telling me, “That’s a good idea, go ahead,” he said, “Help me set up a blog. I’ve been wanting to start one for a while.”

Being young and inexperienced, and not knowing what I had, I agreed. I went on and set up the blog for him, which he only wrote in once. I figured I didn’t have much to write about and kind of put the idea aside.

Until 15 years later.

Looking back at it, he took advantage of me or he really wanted to set up a blog I’ll never know for sure ,  I was too naive to know.

This is why you never tell people why you are doing the things you are doing. You can tell them what you are doing, but never why. Because if you tell them why, you set yourself up for manipulation, jealousy, discouragement, or worse, in my case.

The best thing to do is tell people when you succeed, but even then, don’t tell them why. You ever heard that if you tell people your dreams, they never come true? This is why.

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I’m 38 and there are three things I wish I realized earlier

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It’s 2025, and I am 38 years old. There are so many things I wish I had realized earlier in life. If I had, I could have made better decisions and gotten so much more out of the years that have already passed. Life has a way of teaching you lessons, but sometimes those lessons come a little too late.

One of the biggest things I’ve come to understand is just how quickly time passes. I can vividly remember being 27 and moving out of my parents’ house for the first time. It feels like it was only yesterday, but in reality, it was 11 years ago. Those years have flown by in what feels like the blink of an eye, leaving me to wonder where the time went. Don’t waste a single second.

As you get older, you start noticing how life changes in ways you might not have expected. For instance, people don’t hang out the way they used to when they were younger. Back in my 20s, socializing with friends was a big part of my life. We spent countless hours together, laughing and creating memories. Now, most people my age spend the majority of their time with their spouse and kids, and social gatherings become rarer and more difficult to arrange. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, just a different stage of life.

Regret becomes a more familiar feeling as you age. You start reflecting on the choices you made, the opportunities you missed, and the things you took for granted. Your values and priorities also shift in ways you couldn’t have predicted. The things that seemed so crucial in your 20s—like climbing the career ladder, earning more money, or being “successful” by societal standards—often lose their importance. Now, I find myself valuing simpler things.

It’s a sobering yet enlightening realization that life doesn’t wait for you to figure it out. The key, I’ve learned, is to take the lessons from the past, let go of what no longer matters, and make the most of the time you have left.

7 things I wish I knew in my 20s

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Unfortunately, wisdom comes with age. However, you can look to be older than for wisdom and guidance. Just ensure they are in a good place in their life, or their knowledge is not worth taking. The older you get, the wiser you get. Here are some things I wish I had known when I was twenty.

  1. Follow your passion
    When you get older, certain opportunities get taken away from you. Therefore, you should follow your passion early on in life and not let anyone stop you, especially in sports or something athletic. Work hard, and you will make it.
  2. Save your money
    When you make savings and investments when you are young, the money will multiply tremendously, and you will thank yourself when you are older. Please save your money on material things and expensive electronics that will be outdated before you know it. Even if you keep a hundred dollars a month, you will have—a million saved by retirement age.
  3. Cherish a good friendship
    Good friends that have your best interest at heart are hard to come by. It is harder to make friends when you get older. So stay in touch, send a birthday card, and always cherish a good friendship.
  4. Don’t party too hard
    By turning 20, you should realize life is not all about having fun. At this age, it is really easy to get addicted to drugs and screw your entire life up. Just say no, and don’t give in to peer pressure. You might wake up ten years later and regret what you did with the past ten years of your life.
  5. Take care of yourself
    It is easy to gain a lot of weight but much more challenging to lose it. It would help if you did a yearly check-up or physical at your doctor’s office by this age. Watch what you eat and exercise. It gets harder as you get older. So, develop those habits early on.
  6. Have goals and plans
    If you don’t have a direction in life, it is easy to get nowhere. I’m not saying you should have life figured out. But you should have things you are actively working towards, not just drifting aimlessly. The more detailed your plans are, the better and the more likely you will get there.
  7. Value a good education
    You don’t need college if you are uniquely good at something. Otherwise, you should get an associate’s degree. It will open many doors regarding job opportunities and your understanding of the world. You don’t have to waste your money on a prestigious school; community college is a good option.

You can’t go back in time, and the decisions you make when you are young will affect your entire life. So be careful, seek guidance and advice when possible, and constantly analyze that advice to make sure it fits your heart’s needs and wants. Good luck, and you can always email me to ask for advice.